Suzanne Opion had a unique window in the psyche of death.

On the other side, she was from more than 1,000 people worldwide at the last moments of their lives – from her home in the United States to Thailand and Zimbabwe. O’Brien, a registered nurse, had a motive to move to the care of the residence for more than two decades, and since then a nurse has worked in oncology and the state of death, and supported those at the end of life emotionally and physically by helping them work through their grief.

The last O’Brien book, Good deathIt aims to normalize the facts of death and the need to plan the end. The book also shares the pearls of wisdom from the patients of O’Brien and many common threads shared by the people who die – and say that “moments of spirituality” about their lives can teach us everything, she says.

“They started talking about the same things.” luck. “Because at the end of life, it does not matter who you are or the amount of money you have. None of this appeared. It was all about what they learned, what they regretted, what they did not do, and what they were very afraid of doing it.”

In an interview with luckO’Brien explains three regrets of its patients at the end of life – and how this revelation formed how it leads it.

1. I did not live my goal.

At the end of life, many people share what they did not do, but they knew they always wanted to do it, says O’Brien.

“We are all here for a purpose, and we all have talents, and when we do not share them and behave on these, this is the place where the tremendous regret comes,” O’Brien says. She says that “dipping in the unknown” or experimenting with something new is a factor in an abundant mindset.

When we consider our time sacred and limited, we are less afraid to take action about something that might arouse us. “One of the things we do not know is the number of days we have,” she says. “When you feel this feeling, or you have something you want to do, don’t let your ego, part of you, close it.”

This does not mean that people should enter an existential crisis about their goal. Think about an unexploited goal and make gradual changes in its direction. “If you do one thing every day towards an alignment goal you want to do, in one month, 30 will be held,” says Opion.

2. I did not allow myself to fully love, and I did not like others without restriction or condition.

Many people at the end of life regret not weak enough to allow themselves to love and give love. They often participate that they cannot reach a level of forgiveness with someone else or themselves, says O’Brien. She says it is necessary to extend the blessing of ourselves and know when to take ownership and release the guilt. O’Brien encourages patients to imagine the time they are struggling to give up and ask themselves if they have done what they are currently with the information and resources they have.

“When you carry luggage, it keeps you stuck,” she says. “We have things that happen to us, and if we cannot solve them, if we adhere to anger or discontent, or believe that something we passed by is the dictation of the rest of our lives, then forgiveness is the transformative tool.”

O’Brien says that finding a way to work through emotional issues and relationships throughout life can help people build more original communications. “Do not reach the end of life to find grace yourself,” she says, and polish the lessons that you have regretted instead.

Treatment and mind are common tools to work through discontent and help build deeper connections.

3. I was not able now

People get acquainted with the deathbed on the finals of life, and sometimes for the first time, the little gifts it brings and that can be often appreciated.

The researchers have studied this confession and pointed to this in mind and dread, which shows that estimating the current moment and shields in our surroundings can calm the mind and body.

“The moments that fall every day, moments of joy and gratitude … do not miss the birds that sing abroad, go walk in the garden, or the ability to be in this amazing city that is very active,” says Opion.

This curiosity and attendance can help people live in an original and tend to experience joy.

“I completely changed my life when I eventually started working,” says Opion. “Our minds keep us stuck. It is like our little prison if we allow it.”

This story was originally shown on Fortune.com

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