Umm Adan met for the first time in 2006 in the southern Lebanese village He suffers accordingly. I was traveling in Lebanon shortly after the end of this Israeli summer, which killed about 1,200 people and fun in the country with the country Unexual munitions.

Umm Adwaden was born in 1939, nine years before Israel Self -violence On the Palestinian soil. She had married a Palestinian refugee from the vicinity of Nazareth, who fled to Lebanon in 1948 as a child, separated from his family along the way. Her husband had already died by the time we met, but her son Hassan told me a hidden laughter of nostalgia until the first meeting of the husband was “like magic.”

Umm Adan carried eight children, two children and six girls, three of whom died-one in a car accident and one during the Lebanese civil war from 1975-1990. The third was shot by a cousin.

A strong and frustrated woman, Umm Adnan was already having difficulty walking in 2006 when she and my friend Amelia came in her home – which, unlike many other southern Lebanese housing, managed to avoid damage that could not be compensated during the summer attack. I was me and Amelia Hitchiching Our way was through the devastating scene, and Hassan was one of the endless drivers of cars to pick us up on the side of the road and wandered at home to be stuffed with food and clarify the night.

I returned to Lebanon alone in 2008 after I took the bus from Turki to Syria, where Hassan volunteered to restore me. Then I spend a better part of two months sleeping on the floor of the living room at UM AdNan below a colorful image of her late husband. Hassan sleeps next to my side, an unprecedented ranking like hitting the eye from Umm Adnan.

By this time, UM ADNAN has faced more maneuvering, however they can rarely sit to sit, devote themselves to endless rotation of household chores, gardening and cooking. VAT has always been on hand – as well as a group of other foods – and the fact that one has to pass through the kitchen to reach the only toilet at home means that Umm Adan had a lot of opportunities to intercept me and retract me on the table on another mandatory feeding session.

Umm Adan had a smile for everyone, and her wonderful grace was more famous given the path of her life, which included survival, such as mass massacres like Israeli invasion of 1982 That killed tens of thousands in Lebanon. The sharp losses she endured over the years – all against the background of continuous torment by the country that made her husband a refugee – made the mere waking up every morning of great flexibility.

Whether cooking, cleaning, singing, or linking to one of the grandson or another to embody the important thing on the important thing, Umm Adnan embodies a daily heroism that is rejected in the oriental discourse, which reduces the Arab/Muslim woman to a weak and persecuted personality. It is not concerned that in Lebanon and Palestine, it is exactly the opposite that the families gather together while competing with the permanent Israeli threat.

During the brutal Israeli occupation of southern Lebanon, which lasted from 1978 to 2000, Hassan fought with the Lebanese resistance-which means that Umm Adadad was not known at any moment that a fourth child might lose. Now that she has at home, she carried her closely.

Although he was not annoyed by the arrangement of sleep in her living room, Umm Adan Hasan welcomed a good announcement that I was married – part of a scheme that we invented during the influence of a lot of wine. According to our wine’s vision, good marriage to me-the United States’ citizen-his in the end of the end of the end of an American passport and travel to his father’s village in the current Israel.

Thanks to the ways of less religions and in general and the use of general in the kitchen, I was undoubtedly not a doubt that we did not imagine the son -in -law of itself, but it took everything with a noble step.

We got married to a sheikh in the village of Tebinin, and I was listed as a single wife in a good identity document for Palestinian refugees in Lebanon, a category assigned under the Lebanese Law, which prevents Lebanese women such as the mother of two of their citizens to their accusations.

It goes without saying that the passport scheme did not come out, but the mother of two counters extended with good wishes upon our return from the Sheikh and promised a suitable party in the future.

Preach Later on, contact with Hassan For many years – fear of the worst – until one day in December 2022, embodied in WhatsApp messages with a series of emojis and “beennnnnnnn”. He was alive, but the mother of Adadad was not, after he died during the Korona virus. His voice cracked as he told me: “I broke my heart.”

Since then, the home of Umm Adan has been turned into ruins with a large part of the rest of Chehabism – of course, the manual work of the Israeli army, which launched its last invasion of Lebanon in the fall of last year. Her family was unable to save anything from the rubble, leaving only memories about the place where Umm Adnan loved her strength, lost and emerged in the face of adversity, day after day.

Today, March 8, is the International Women’s Day. Just as Israel continues to do its best Make the ground being hell For countless international women, I think a lot about Umm Adan.

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